What gives people the right to treat others poorly? Is it growing up school came easy to them, so they have this belief they are better than everyone else because supposedly they are so smart? Perhaps it’s because they went to Ivy league schools. Maybe they have wealthy parents and lead privileged lives.
My friend who is a successful business man deals with a lot of folks in the Newton/Wesley MA area. Great place to live, but lots of difficult people. This one woman I am thinking of always critiques him on his emails. It’s always about his poor grammar and misspellings. Now this guy makes so much money. She stays at home, no children, and doesn’t work. She’s supported by her husband and yes, she did graduate from Harvard. If you ask me she’s an emotional mess. I told my friend not to be so accommodating with making corrections and to deliberately misspell words and use poor grammar. He’ll feel better and she’ll still want to buy his products. What makes her feel so much better than everyone? Is it all that money she is so accustomed to?? Is she really better off because she has a better handle on the English language, or because she went to Harvard, or maybe it’s her privileged upbringing having such wealthy parents?
I have certainly come across many people who look great on paper however, they struggle so much with working out their emotional issues. Maybe they are the CFO, CEO, or VP of large corporations. Sure they can dazzle you with how intelligent they are. However, if you can’t handle your emotional world, and you can’t learn to work through your issues, and all you can do is spell words correctly and use good grammar are you really any better off??
Money is the root of all evil. Absolute power corrupts absolutely. All that power and money isn’t going to make you happy. A perfect example of that is the woman mentioned above. She has to critique others to make herself feel better. Going to Harvard, having a privileged life with wealthy parents, and a wealthy husband isn’t enough for her to feel happy about herself. I see many of us use poor grammar and misspell words all the time. Who cares.
I choose to work from an internal framework of being happy with myself first. Do you really want to spend the rest of your life living up to other peoples expectations? You misspelled this, and you used poor grammar, and you didn’t do this correctly, and you really need to get married, and you really need to join this country club or I can’t be your friend, and the list goes on and on.
What you need to do is ask yourself why am I around these people who make me feel bad about myself? Tell them you are happy just the way you are with all your misspellings, poor grammar, and imperfections. How unfortunate it is for them that they have to put others down in order to feel good about themselves.
Try to listen to your inner wisdom in order to find true happiness and peace of mind. Also, try to be aware of the types of people you are hanging around with. Remember they will drag you down if you let them.